Causes and Help for Intimacy Issues Iqaluit NU
North York, ON
Causes and Help for Intimacy Issues
By: Rebecca Rosenblat, Psychotherapist, Relationship and Sex Therapist
(NC)-Open communication is key to any healthy relationship, but it is especially important for a fulfilling and intimate relationship with your partner. A recent survey conducted by Leger Marketing and sponsored by Eli Lilly Canada Inc. found that while nearly eight-in-ten Canadians believe sexual intimacy is an important part of their lives, 47 per cent would not speak to their partner first if they thought there was a serious issue negatively impacting their sexual relationship.
There are a lot of things that can impact levels of intimacy with your partner, including workplace stress, when the family dynamic changes, or even a more serious problem such as erectile dysfunction, but getting the conversation started toward a solution is the first step. Each situation is unique and needs to be approached with care. What works for one couple may fall flat with another. Below are a variety of situations and some tips on how to get the conversation started.
Two ships passing in the night - You've begun to notice that you aren't as close as you once were; day-to-day commitments have replaced your time together. Begin by recognizing the problem and see if your partner has too. Make a plan to get back in the rhythm of the relationship - spend more time together, hug more, eat dinner at the table and not in front of the television, then see where things go.
Four becomes two - All of a sudden, the kids have left the house, and it's just the two of you again. Trying to adapt to the empty nest can be difficult. As a couple, begin by recognizing that your relationship has changed over the years and now it's time to reconnect and rediscover each other. Go on a date with your partner! Get in touch with those hobbies and interests that brought the two of you together in the first place.
Things aren't working the way they should - As a man ages, things may not work the way they used to. Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common medical condition, affecting approximately 34 percent of Canadian men 40 years of age or older as a result of physical health and/or various psychological problems. If you begin experiencing ED, don't be afraid of bringing it up with your partner. Acknowledge that there might be a problem but don't place blame or try to laugh it off. Consult with your doctor as there may be an underlying condition that needs to be treated. There are a variety of treatment options for ED that your doctor will be able to address with you.
Married to our electronic devices - Outside influences can also impact intimacy in a relationship when more attention is paid to your Blackberry, computer, cell phone or latest video game. It is important to let your partner know how you feel and that you need to be put higher on the priority list. Don't expect him/her to turn off completely but work out a schedule that will let them stay in touch but not at your expense. Remind your partner that he/she is the most important thing in your life.
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